holiday-stress-overcome-relationship-dramaHoliday Stress:  How to Overcome Family Conflict

Past relationship issues can come alive during the holidays.

So what do you do with that hurtful comment or past issue that is festering within you, as you sit at the dinner table?

First, realize there’s a reason you feel the way you do.  It’s important to your well-being to honor how you feel and not make yourself wrong.

Know, that it can often be difficult to let go of what was said or done, because it’s bringing up a familiar feeling or experience from your past.  So, If you’re having a hard time shaking it off, don’t fret.  In my best-selling book, Clarity, I share to instead, remind yourself that it’s affecting you deeply because it’s triggering a previous upset from the past.  And it’s the perfect opportunity for you to grow and become more of who you are meant to be, instead of allowing it to define you or hold you back.

So what do you do in that very moment?  If you can step away for a few minutes, take some time to journal about how you feel or take your anxiety or upset on a walk.  Even just 5 or 10 minutes of doing something to express how you feel, will help you allow that emotion to be released from your body, instead of suppressing it or holding onto it.

You will then be able to come back to the conversation or dinner table without the intensity of the emotion bubbling underneath the surface or the risk of it erupting in the middle of the festivities.

And most importantly, you will feel more calm and able to relax and enjoy your holiday!

Want more tips on having a peaceful holiday?
In my interview with Denise Dador of ABC7 Eyewitness news, I’m talking about how to create a peaceful celebration regardless of past relationship dynamics.

I’m inspired by Diane’s ability to profoundly and intuitively connect people to the root of their unhappiness, and heal themselves at their core. With Altomare’s revolutionary approach to living your life from the inside out, you can’t help but feel greater peace, happiness, and fulfillment.


Marci Shimoff, NY Times best-selling author of Happy for No Reason and co-author of six Chicken Soup for the Soul books, from the foreword of CLARITY

I’ve been fortunate enough to work with Diane Altomare. Through her coaching, I’ve been able to tap into my own strength to navigate through both good and tough times. Reading Clarity, I can so vividly hear her voice and am so excited that now countless others can draw on her special expertise to become who they are meant to be.

Lisa Breckenridge, reporter/anchor Fox 11 News and Good Day LA