OBSERVE WHAT’S HAPPENING- what is the situation that you are experiencing- write it out like a story

Step One

Notice what feelings are present- notice how this experience feels to you and if it’s a feeling you’ve experienced in the past.

Step 2

Give the feelings a ‘voice’. Use ‘The Voices of your Emotions’ list below to identify the voice of your feelings.

Step 3

Allow yourself to feel the feeling and notice where it is in your body.  Honor these feelings until they “let go” of you or diminish in some way.

And, most importantly, express the emotion in some physical way so you can release it from your body. For example, take a walk, journal, or express the emotion in a yoga or kickboxing class. Find a healthy physical outlet for your emotion.
Step 4

The Voices of your Emotions.

Once you have completed the 4-step process, take action!  Take one action that is aligned with what you want to create in your life.  Remember to use ‘The Voices of  your Emotions’ list whenever you want to explore your emotions in more depth or move through any challenge!

The voice of anger says:

  • Stop it. Don’t do that anymore
  • I can’t take this anymore
  • I’ve had it
  • I’m fed up

The voice of shame says:

  • I feel bad about who I am
  • I feel bad about what happened
  • I am ashamed that I was involved in that

The voice of guilt says:

  • I’m not a good person
  • That was wrong
  • I shouldn’t have done that
  • I should’ve know better

The voice of frustration says:

  •  Things aren’t going the way I want them to
  • I can’t figure this out
  • This is too difficult
  • I can’t do this

The voice of worry says:

  • Something bad is going to happen
  • I won’t be able to handle what happens

The voice of fear says:

  • You are not safe
  • You can’t do this
  • People won’t like me
  • People will leave me or judge me
  • I will lose someone I love

The voice of negativity:

  • Nothing every works out for me
  • Life isn’t fair
  • Everything is going wrong

The Final STEP.

Once you have completed the 4-step process, listen to this coaching session and your bonus step is to email me and let me know what you discovered!

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Working with Diane has literally changed my life. This observation is from someone who finds change very difficult. She stopped me from dwelling on past events and helped me to see possibility in my present. I had built such a wall of resistance over the years and it just crumbled. Suddenly, I found a way to make decisions because I could feel my true self. Most therapists I have encountered have spent precious time reacting to my colorful stories. Diane was unmoved and kept me focused on my journey. I’ve recommended Diane to others and they too find her just terrific!

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