We all distract ourselves in different ways. Focusing too much energy on someone else’s issue is one of the many things we use to distract ourselves from focusing on our own life. Many times we want to avoid dealing with our own negative emotions or experiences because they are too painful to deal with or acknowledge. Often we do this as a way to protect ourselves and avoid the pain in our own life. Sometimes, it seems easier to focus on someone else’s experience or problems. But unfortunately, that never gives us the end result we truly desire. And worse, it often leaves us feeling empty and unfulfilled.

 YOUR MOST DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP and how to make peace with it 

“When you can understand another person’s pain, you can truly understand why they are the way they are.”

The key to being able to transform our relationships is to not only understand our own experience and journey, but to understand others’.  People are always operating from and responding to life from their own perspective and from the totality of their experiences.  You can make peace with the most difficult relationship in your life by understanding the pain that person is unconsciously transferring onto you and the relationship.  By acknowledging what experience, issue or trauma they are playing out with you, you will be able to understand them better.  Once you can understand that you are simply triggering an unresolved hurt, incident or emotion from their past, you can give yourself permission to not take it personally and disconnect from their pain.  In other words, you can allow them to be as they are.

As Esther Hicks, author of “Getting into the Vortex” shares, “If you do not take another’s behavior personally, understanding it is their personal battle- in time, they will leave you out of it.”

Today’s Challenge:

Honor your relationship by allowing both you and the other person, to be as you are.  Ask yourself, “How can I be at peace within myself, even if this relationship doesn’t change?”  Keep asking yourself this question and the answer will come, in time.

Today’s Self-Reflection:

Ask yourself, “What is this relationship trying to teach me about myself?”  OR “What have I most learned about myself as a result of this person?”  Ie.  Are you resilient, strong or is this relationship here to show you where you need to heal?

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